Knowing What You Don't Know: The Most Valuable Skill in Learning

    Three months into my first software engineering job, I was absolutely certain I knew everything. Well, not everything. But I’d built a few projects, shipped some features, and felt pretty comfortable. When senior engineers talked about “architectural concerns” or “scalability tradeoffs,” I’d nod knowingly, thinking I got it. Then the production incident happened. Friday, 4:47 PM. The API started returning 500 errors. Users were locked out. Revenue was bleeding. My manager: “Can you look into this? You built this service.” ...

    October 8, 2025 · 12 min · Rafiul Alam

    Competence Porn: Why We Love Watching Experts - The Appeal of Skill

    There’s a specific kind of dopamine hit that comes from watching someone who is exceptionally good at something solve a problem with elegant precision. Sherlock Holmes deducing a person’s entire backstory from their shoelaces. Tony Stark building a suit in a cave with a box of scraps. Elle Woods demolishing a witness with perfect legal maneuvering. Dr. House diagnosing the impossible case through sheer diagnostic brilliance. This is competence porn-and it’s one of the most satisfying character types in storytelling. ...

    January 9, 2025 · 9 min · Rafiul Alam

    The Curse of Knowledge in Storytelling: Why Experts Tell Boring Stories

    A software engineer tries to explain their work at a dinner party: “So basically we’re implementing a microservices architecture using containerized deployments with an event-driven messaging pattern…” The eyes around the table glaze over. A doctor explains a diagnosis: “You have acute pharyngitis secondary to a streptococcal infection, so we’ll prescribe a beta-lactam antibiotic…” The patient nods, understanding nothing. An experienced teacher wonders why students don’t grasp concepts that seem obvious. ...

    December 6, 2024 · 8 min · Rafiul Alam

    Psychology Short Collection: Mind Mechanics - Cognitive Rarities

    Small concepts that rewire how your brain works. Each one short enough to read in minutes, powerful enough to change everything. Forcing Functions Designing irreversible commitments that make failure impossible. Burn the ships. Make public declarations. Put money on the line. When Cortés arrived in Mexico in 1519, he burned his ships. His soldiers couldn’t retreat. They had to win or die. Modern versions: Tweet your goal publicly Bet money you’ll finish Sign a contract with financial penalties Delete the escape route The fancy term: Ulysses contracts - named after Odysseus who tied himself to the mast to resist the Sirens’ song. ...

    October 30, 2024 · 5 min · Rafiul Alam

    The Dunning-Kruger Effect: Why Incompetent People Think They're Experts

    I once watched a junior developer with three months of React experience tell a senior architect with 15 years of experience that “Redux is dead and anyone still using it doesn’t understand modern development.” The senior architect smiled politely and continued the code review. That junior developer was me. And I was living proof of the Dunning-Kruger Effect. If you’ve ever wondered why the least knowledgeable people often have the strongest opinions, or why beginners sometimes appear more confident than experts, you’re about to understand one of the most fascinating cognitive biases in psychology. ...

    January 15, 2024 · 18 min · Rafiul Alam