Knowing What You Don't Know: The Most Valuable Skill in Learning

    Three months into my first software engineering job, I was absolutely certain I knew everything. Well, not everything. But I’d built a few projects, shipped some features, and felt pretty comfortable. When senior engineers talked about “architectural concerns” or “scalability tradeoffs,” I’d nod knowingly, thinking I got it. Then the production incident happened. Friday, 4:47 PM. The API started returning 500 errors. Users were locked out. Revenue was bleeding. My manager: “Can you look into this? You built this service.” ...

    November 18, 2025 · 12 min · Rafiul Alam

    Reflecting Without Ruminating: How to Learn from the Past Without Living in It

    I spent three hours last night replaying a conversation from five years ago. The conversation: A technical decision I made that turned out to be wrong. What I was doing: “I should have seen this coming. Why didn’t I research more? Everyone probably thinks I’m incompetent. What if I make a similar mistake again? Am I even good at this?” Three hours. No answers. Just anxiety. This wasn’t reflection. This was rumination. ...

    November 18, 2025 · 12 min · Rafiul Alam