Reflecting Without Ruminating: How to Learn from the Past Without Living in It
I spent three hours last night replaying a conversation from five years ago. The conversation: A technical decision I made that turned out to be wrong. What I was doing: “I should have seen this coming. Why didn’t I research more? Everyone probably thinks I’m incompetent. What if I make a similar mistake again? Am I even good at this?” Three hours. No answers. Just anxiety. This wasn’t reflection. This was rumination. ...